
A few of you caught the post last month announcing I've lost that love'n feeling for Hankalinge/MacDonald, yet others didn't read it.
Regardless, I've been asked many questions as of late concerning the present and future status of he and I. Soooo... With out further delay Here is the scoop.
I came in November to Africa in Love with him and thankful for the many aspects I've been stretched and challenged over the last year and a half with him. To this very day I am grateful for the abundance of good that came from my time of knowing and befriending him, but "All good things must come to an end." ... and it did!
I was always skeptical of our future. Our eight year age gap, cultural
differences and directions in life had me constantly in prayer as it
what the future would hold.
It seemed for some time that our paths had interlocked
and wedding bells were closer than ever. Yet as time passed and prayers
were answered God showed me He's a good guy but not the BEST for me.
With out trying to sound self-righteous. I feel he loves God and desires
to follow God but he's not on fire for God. Loving God isn't enough for
me. I want and desire a husband who has a passion from the inside out
for God, as he will be the leader of me and my home. I want that
passion in (him) to lead our family to our knees in prayer and praise
through the good and bad in our journey of life. I am also convinced I've been
called as a full time and possibly life long missionary and I desire a
husband who's also heard the call and will surrender all it takes.
Hankalinge/MacDonald
was
willing to serve
with me, but he was not called. And I'm not convinced that your own
will or ability can see you through the many trials, struggles and
frustrations your faced with on the mission field. Eventually, your
will and desire fades and you want to through
in the towel. But I've learned, with God He'll never put a dream in
your heart or ask you to give up something with out first equipping you
with everything you need on the inside to accomplish it. And that's the difference in Hankalinge/Macdonad and myself. It's my dream to be a life long missionary, but it's his dream to be a journalist.
Last but not least, we faced the reality of culture and the difference in
finances. I though we were on the same page, but in reality we were
not.
Had he been called to missions or had I seen a consuming Passion
for God in his life, I would have been a little more willing to forgive
the issues with money that we encountered. But as time would show, it wasn't worth giving time or attention to, as the damage was done and the end in sight.
So.... Another one bites the dust!
Rest assured God has someone and I'm still as open as before to any and every color of skin and culture.
As I've said it many times before and I'm happy to repeat again. "If
marriage if for life, I have the rest of my life to be married. And I'd
rather be single for life, than to marry the wrong man." So the hunt
continues.